My Dad once told me that a relationship is a two-way street. Two people have to both want it.
I’ve never dreamed of a perfect relationship because I never dream of something I can never have. Perfection on its own is a fallacy. The world does not operate on being perfect – it operates on the premise of duality – of black and white and good and bad; of sunrise and sunset and light and dark – it operates on balance.
The fallacy of perfection is this: What does it mean to be perfect? What is a perfect relationship?
What some people do not realize is that their aspirations of a perfect relationship are okay when they are single. But in a relationship, perfection is a burden to the other. It creates this obligation, this idea that the other person should measure up and do things, well, perfectly.
To make things worse, perfection is an abstract concept. When applied, they could mean thousands of things. There’s no measure, no way to gauge what constitutes what is acceptable versus what isn’t.
And that’s one of the reasons why couples part.
Because sometime in the relationship, they figure out that they differ in opinion on what a relationship is or should be. And when they reach that fork in the road, they realize that they have to part ways because they start wanting different things.
More than a perfect relationship, I want romance. I like fighting and bickering. But as much as want those, I also crave of making up and laughing about it afterwards.
How about you? Feel free to leave a comment!